I haven’t written much on here lately.
But tonight, I really felt the need to write this.
I’m 25. I dropped out of college. I don’t have a degree. I don’t have a high paying salary job. I’m not engaged, no husband, no kids. I’m single. I don’t own my own property. No white picket fences.
With those few lines, I can already see the rolling eyes and the shaking heads. I can hear the judgments and the misconceptions. And the you-should-bes and the why-can’t-yous.
I know a handful of people who don’t agree with this kind of life. Some are family, unfortunately. And it happens, most people won’t agree if you choose to stray of the well-paved path. Many people were raised that way, many experienced their lives that way. They were raised on the idea that in order for you to truly have a good life is if you were financially stable, if you have a degree, a good job and if you have a spouse and kids. And a nice house with the white picket fence. And the brand new car. Truthfully, there’s nothing wrong with that. That sounds like a nice life for most people.
But it’s not a life for me. And a lot of people are starting to realize that it’s not a life for them either.
Before I go any further I want you to know that I am not promoting an unconventional way of living to everyone or that it is for everyone. Or that I look down on people who live those typical lives. Because I’m not. If you’re genuinely happy with whatever life you have right now, then who am I to say anything against it?
But what I am promoting is living a life that you have always wanted. And what I’m not okay with is people telling others how to live their lives as if it were their own and as if their way of living is the only way there is. Take a step back and look at the bigger picture. Is it fair? Is what you’re doing fair to others? Pinpointing everything that’s wrong with their lives? Creating a timeline for them and making sure that they hit that milestone otherwise they’re considered a failure, not good enough, not fit for your approval? Again, is it fair? Why should they abide by your words? Even if you’re their parent why won’t you just let them follow a dream? Wouldn’t you want your child, loved one, brother, sister, spouse to be happy? No matter what?
I have my dreams. And I know I want to keep traveling and exploring. To tell stories through photography and writing. And I want to help and inspire as many people as I can. That’s all I really need. No matter how long it takes I will make my dreams come into fruition because it won’t happen overnight. It’s going to be hard and I might have to pummel my way through it. But I’m willing to work my way through hell if I have to. I have clear vision. A path that I have created for myself. A path that not many will approve of, but I wasn’t born into this world for my life to be approved by others. I was born to live my purpose. And this path I have chosen is my purpose, no matter what anyone says.
It’s my life. Nobody should have a say in it, except for the person who is living it.
Albert Einstein once said, “Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”
If you’re living that typical life and you’re not happy, that’s when you should re-think your definition of living. That’s when you should do something about your life. Create your path, one that will lead you to the life you want. Not the life that others want. Answer these questions.
Are you happy? Are you living a life you want? Are you staying true to your purpose? Are you following your bliss?
If the answer is yes. Keep going. If it’s no, pick a dream. Something you’ve always wanted to do. Create your path. And work as hard as you possibly can to get it no matter what anyone else says. Keep going. And you’ll find out why you were meant to create this path for yourself. Maybe you’ll travel the world, maybe you’ll create your own successful company, maybe you’ll write a best-selling book, maybe you’ll save thousands of lives, maybe you’ll build your own business in a new country, maybe you’ll change the world through your talent and passion. Maybe just maybe, you’ll live the life you’ve always wanted…
Not because you followed the path that was paved for you, but because you created your own.
Don’t let your dreams be dreams.